Thursday, March 17, 2011

and you are...?

It has occurred to me that of all the people I know and love, very few of them depend on me for friendship. It may be because I am not one of those who calls every day to touch base. I prefer to respond when needed.
It may be because I am not the kind who has to be at every coffee klatch, or every party, or every activity where people make friends. I prefer to only go to things I enjoy and can afford.
It may be because, with 3 sisters, I don't pursue friendships like people with no one to turn to.
I think part of it is my lack of appreciation of my own value as a friend.
Another part of my problem is my desire to not step on toes or make people uncomfortable. I am not the one to barge into another friendship, invite myself places or even drop in unannounced, because I have a standard of manners that sometimes keeps me from putting myself out there.
Plus I live vicariously through other people and that assures me an active and meaningful life. I do not envy you your trips, lunches and dinners...your picnics and shopping adventures and celebrations. In fact, if you don't do anything for me to hear about, I will not have any 2nd hand memories to cherish.
I know that many people I love forget about me the minute we stop seeing each other, and, as I have stated before, I am ok with that. I seem better at planting the seeds in the hearts of others, not gathering the flowers.

But here are some things I always do for people I know...I listen, I remember and I pray.

Even if you don't know who I am, I will remember you for a long time. Friendship may fade away but love is forever.

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